It’s Halloween and it has inspired me to talk about the concept of fear from my point of view.
Fear has a real bad reputation, so many clients come to me with fears over all different things, fear of never being loved, fear of death, fear of life even fear of fear.
The first thing I will tell a client who is suffering from the bad bad fear is that I am glad they have fear. Fear is a natural primal cave person emotional response to the need to survive. Fear is your friend. When we were cave people fear kept us alive, it helped peak our intuition and it helped to create the intense intuitive humans that we are now. Fear is most certainly our friend.
There are times when fear is in control and we are not, that controlling fear feels really bad, it stops us from doing the things we think we should be doing, it gets in the way of the simplest of tasks and it stops us from living.
Fear is of one mind; ‘keep you safe at all costs’. But fear needs to be taught, it wants you to communicate with it and teach it what is safe for you and what is not. As cave people fear would come up and we would be very cautious, we would then be inquisitive and check and toy with what the fear has reacted to, either we will keep the fear and stay away or we will learn we do not need to be afraid, hence we are teaching fear.
Feel the fear, but do it anyway.
Ask yourself; is this fear I am feeling a real primal fear?
Will what I am afraid of actually kill me?
If it won’t actually kill me, do I want to try it?
If you do want to try it, feel the fear, thank the fear and do it anyway.
If you don’t want to try it, feel the fear, thank the fear and find something else to do.
You have to teach your own fear what it needs to keep you safe from.
This means you need to look deep inside yourself to find out what you truly want and what childhood trauma or ancestral trauma is stopping you from being yourself.