Could your trauma be created from the intention of your life?
I have started asking more clients if they know what the intention of their conception was.
Think about this for yourselves why did your parents have you; was it an organic, loving, love-making that created you? Did your parents already have expectations on you or ulterior motives to being intimate to create your life?
Think about the energetic pressure, expectation and demands that would be on a baby at conception if the parents are having sex to create a baby to save their failing marriage? Before the baby is even born the child is now holding the survival of the family’s unit’s energetics, so holding the energy of its mother, father and any other siblings even as far as grandparents and family friends. This baby will be conceived holding trauma that the mother and father are unable to hold, so they are deferring their trauma onto the un-conceived child. If after conception the parents do split up then it becomes the child’s energetic fault. This is a sign that the parents are unable to take responsibility for them-selves and now the child must hold onto that responsibility. If the child’s conception does fix the parents relationship, then the baby becomes the parent’s rescuer and fixer and may carry these, pattern creating beliefs, forward into the babies life with positive or negative effects.
Amazingly, I have also come across mothers who have openly admitted that they fell pregnant so that they could have someone who will love them unconditionally. So their intention is to have a baby so they can control and own who loves them. I find this hard to comment on other than to say that the mother can only be blind to their own trauma and I feel compassion for them and their children.
I think this also incorporates falling pregnant to trap a partner into a relationship as well as making someone pregnant to trap them into a relationship.
The extreme number of clients I see that are holding trauma and unproductive belief patterns in their lives because they were born the wrong sex. I get told my dad wanted me to be a boy, or my mum had 2 boys already she wanted me to be a girl. The mother and father conceive the child and then blame the new born child for being the wrong sex at birth, this is again the parents not taking responsibility for themselves, as well as, being quite ignorant in my opinion. The child is born and immediately at its moment of birth, has let one or both of its parents down because it was born the wrong sex. This child could then be holding a pattern in its belief structure that it has to let its parents down or that it is not good enough or that it has to prove itself or all of these and more. The child has lost before it has begun.
Another pre-conception trauma I come across very regularly is that of expectations. Before a child is conceived the parents put expectations on the child. They want the child to go to university because they never did or they want the child to be a doctor just like them, or good at sports because they were good at sports or where not good at sports. They expect that their child will sleep through the night as quickly as possible. There are millions of beliefs that we could be putting on our children and these beliefs create limitations. For instance, If you expect your child to go to university and become a doctor then you are limiting the child to only ever just being a doctor, what if that child could be a world renowned artist that makes millions of people happy and earns more money than you could even imagine. But before the child is born the child has been restricted.
There are more pre- conception traumas that can be created for our children but to conclude I want to say, make children through love, as parents, raise your children the best you can but always, always, put loving your children first. Don’t restrict your children and learn to take responsibility for your needs and expectations so your children do not have to hold them all for you. None of us is perfect and our children have also chosen their own path in life, but as parents it is our jobs to give our children the platform of security for them to just be themselves.
- I love you but please do not hit your sister.
- I love you but that was not a good choice.
- I love you but littering is not a good for the earth
- I love you thank you for being so considerate
- I love you but I am not cleaning up your toys you need to learn to do that yourself. Etc…